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The Law Of Attraction Works Both Ways! by David Wygant
The Law Of Attraction Works Both Ways! by David Wygant
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I received the following comment from someone the other day that I simply had to share with all of you as it illustrates something I teach perfectly. Let's read what he wrote first, then I'll explain further.
"David, I dont know what planet you're from, but it's not Earth. I think that perhaps you need to get out in the world and see for yourself. The problems in the dating world are never due to the man being needy or not being confident in himself. The problems lie with the way women have been brought up by their parents. Women view the world as though everything and everyone is at their beckoned call and disposal. Especially mens bank accounts. Women have NO morals in todays society. They will do whatever it takes to get what they want. THAT is what is most important to them. Too many times have I been out, alone, enjoying a drink when a girl will ask me to buy her a drink and when I do, its like she didnt even know I was in the room afterwards. Women have been brought up being called "Princess" like they are something special and this give them a false impression of how the world views them. "Princess" is a word that should be banished by the english speaking world. Every relationship I have had always ended the same way. She had all my money and personal items and I was left out in the cold and broke. They would cheat on me even though I was the best role model for men there is. Men are blinded by pussy. They think the only way they are going to get some is if they do each and every thing a woman wants. WRONG! We should go back to the time when women were seen and not heard, and 99% of those shouldnt let their big ass' be seen.
David"
There are endless things I could say about this guy's unbelievably poor mindset and attitude, but I posted his comment in this blog because it is the perfect example of one of the most important concepts I teach people I coach: what you believe (positive OR negative) you WILL manifest in your life.
Many of you have probably heard of "the law of attraction" which basically is this very concept . . . except people often believe that this "law" works only in terms of what you can POSITIVELY attract into your life. You may have seen articles dealing with "the law of attraction which discuss how you can use it to bring wealth, love, fame or success into your life.
"Attraction" is such a positive word . . . but what many people don't realize is that you can (and will) attract BOTH the good and the bad things into your that your attitude and belief system attracts to it. Here is where our friend Dave's comment is so perfectly illustrative. He is the textbook example of someone whose poor mindset and beliefs manifest all of those poor things into his life.
Dave's comments make very clear that he believes himself to be a perpetual victim: he complains at length about how every woman takes advantage of him, his affections, his generosity, his money and his supreme fidelity - despite the fact that he is (and I quote) "the best role model for men there is." According to him, EVERY woman leaves him broke, cheats on him, believes she should be treated like a princess, ignores him after she gets what she wants and just plain has no morals!
Wow, what are the odds that EVERY woman this guy meets has all of these awful characteristics? Or are ALL women simply like this? Think about how ridiculous this is for a minute.
Another thing that stuck out when reading Dave's comments was that he takes NO responsibility for any of the romantic failures he's experienced. He puts 100% of the blame for the fact that 'every relationship he's had always ends the same way' on the fact that ALL women by their nature are people with the laundry list of horrible characteristics he describes.
Is he kidding? In all of these failed relationships there wasn't one percent of blame that was attributable to him? Again, this is absurd.
Dave seems to find the same kind of woman (and the same kind of relationship) over and over again. Why? Well, looking at what all his relationships have in common, the one thing that is constant is HIM. In life, when we evaluate things in our life we need to remember to always look in the mirror.
Dave has cultivated such negative beliefs about relationships, about the nature of women, about his expectations for a relationship and about his identity as a consummate victim, that he will continue to attract this same kind of woman (and relationship) over and over again. He is manifesting all of these bad beliefs and attitudes into his life every day!
"The law of attraction" works to bring both the good and the bad things you believe into your life. So take some time to think about what you believe and what your mindset is all about.
If you look at your relationship patterns and feel like you keep meeting "bad people" or the wrong people, then you need to really re-evaluate what kind of energy you're putting out to the world and what kind of beliefs are underlying your relationship choices. Chances are that while hopefully not as negative as our friend Dave's are, you may be out there meeting and dating people with a few of these bad beliefs and mindsets of your own.
Think of the upside to all this also. By identifying any negative beliefs that may be manifesting negative things in your life, you can cultivate new and positive beliefs in their place which will begin to attract and manifest positive and amazing things into your life. Maybe this blog will inspire our friend Dave to do the same!
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I received the following comment from someone the other day that I simply had to share with all of you as it illustrates something I teach perfectly. Let's read what he wrote first, then I'll explain further.
"David, I dont know what planet you're from, but it's not Earth. I think that perhaps you need to get out in the world and see for yourself. The problems in the dating world are never due to the man being needy or not being confident in himself. The problems lie with the way women have been brought up by their parents. Women view the world as though everything and everyone is at their beckoned call and disposal. Especially mens bank accounts. Women have NO morals in todays society. They will do whatever it takes to get what they want. THAT is what is most important to them. Too many times have I been out, alone, enjoying a drink when a girl will ask me to buy her a drink and when I do, its like she didnt even know I was in the room afterwards. Women have been brought up being called "Princess" like they are something special and this give them a false impression of how the world views them. "Princess" is a word that should be banished by the english speaking world. Every relationship I have had always ended the same way. She had all my money and personal items and I was left out in the cold and broke. They would cheat on me even though I was the best role model for men there is. Men are blinded by pussy. They think the only way they are going to get some is if they do each and every thing a woman wants. WRONG! We should go back to the time when women were seen and not heard, and 99% of those shouldnt let their big ass' be seen.
David"
There are endless things I could say about this guy's unbelievably poor mindset and attitude, but I posted his comment in this blog because it is the perfect example of one of the most important concepts I teach people I coach: what you believe (positive OR negative) you WILL manifest in your life.
Many of you have probably heard of "the law of attraction" which basically is this very concept . . . except people often believe that this "law" works only in terms of what you can POSITIVELY attract into your life. You may have seen articles dealing with "the law of attraction which discuss how you can use it to bring wealth, love, fame or success into your life.
"Attraction" is such a positive word . . . but what many people don't realize is that you can (and will) attract BOTH the good and the bad things into your that your attitude and belief system attracts to it. Here is where our friend Dave's comment is so perfectly illustrative. He is the textbook example of someone whose poor mindset and beliefs manifest all of those poor things into his life.
Dave's comments make very clear that he believes himself to be a perpetual victim: he complains at length about how every woman takes advantage of him, his affections, his generosity, his money and his supreme fidelity - despite the fact that he is (and I quote) "the best role model for men there is." According to him, EVERY woman leaves him broke, cheats on him, believes she should be treated like a princess, ignores him after she gets what she wants and just plain has no morals!
Wow, what are the odds that EVERY woman this guy meets has all of these awful characteristics? Or are ALL women simply like this? Think about how ridiculous this is for a minute.
Another thing that stuck out when reading Dave's comments was that he takes NO responsibility for any of the romantic failures he's experienced. He puts 100% of the blame for the fact that 'every relationship he's had always ends the same way' on the fact that ALL women by their nature are people with the laundry list of horrible characteristics he describes.
Is he kidding? In all of these failed relationships there wasn't one percent of blame that was attributable to him? Again, this is absurd.
Dave seems to find the same kind of woman (and the same kind of relationship) over and over again. Why? Well, looking at what all his relationships have in common, the one thing that is constant is HIM. In life, when we evaluate things in our life we need to remember to always look in the mirror.
Dave has cultivated such negative beliefs about relationships, about the nature of women, about his expectations for a relationship and about his identity as a consummate victim, that he will continue to attract this same kind of woman (and relationship) over and over again. He is manifesting all of these bad beliefs and attitudes into his life every day!
"The law of attraction" works to bring both the good and the bad things you believe into your life. So take some time to think about what you believe and what your mindset is all about.
If you look at your relationship patterns and feel like you keep meeting "bad people" or the wrong people, then you need to really re-evaluate what kind of energy you're putting out to the world and what kind of beliefs are underlying your relationship choices. Chances are that while hopefully not as negative as our friend Dave's are, you may be out there meeting and dating people with a few of these bad beliefs and mindsets of your own.
Think of the upside to all this also. By identifying any negative beliefs that may be manifesting negative things in your life, you can cultivate new and positive beliefs in their place which will begin to attract and manifest positive and amazing things into your life. Maybe this blog will inspire our friend Dave to do the same!
Why Are So Many People Addicted To Online Dating? by Evan Marc Katz
Why Are So Many People Addicted To Online Dating? by Evan Marc Katz
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Dear Evan,
Having the experience you do with online dating, I was wondering what you think about some of the psychology of online dating. Is there a phenomenon of addiction to it? I was wondering because it seems like so many people have profiles online either the same site or multiple sites for lengthy periods of time. I can search Match.com and then come back a year or two later and the same guys are still on the site and usually with the same picture. Also, I dated a guy for a time who almost seems to be addicted. What do you think? Barb
Dear Barb,
There are two things going on in your question, and I want to address them separately:
First, let’s dispel the notion that there’s something wrong with someone who’s a) on Match.com two years after he signed up, and b) signed up for multiple dating sites.
It’s pure hypocrisy. The only way you’d know if the same guy was on Match.com two years later is if YOU were on the site two years later. The only way you’d know that he’s also on eHarmony is if you’re ALSO on eHarmony. Essentially, you’re saying, “I’m not a loser, player, commitmentphobe or dating addict, but any man who does the same thing that I’m doing must be.â€
So to set the record straight: going on multiple dating sites means that you’re looking to expand your options. Maybe your month ran out on JDate and you want to try SawYouAtSinai. Maybe the pickings were slim on Chemistry, so you branched out to PerfectMatch. Maybe you’ve been rejected by everyone on DateMyPet, so you decide to bark up a different tree like AnimalAttraction.
There is another myth in your question, Barbâ€"the idea that someone who signed up on Match in January ‘06 and is still on in January ‘08 has been on for two consecutive years. Let’s say he dated seven people in his first two months and then found a happy relationship that lasted for a year and a half. After a month of mourning and attempted make-up sex, he reposts his profile once again. All YOU can see is that the same face is still on there, two years later, when, in fact, this guy is the perfect example of an online dating success. He loved, he lost, and he came back for more.
Yeah, I’M that guy.
Naturally, I’ve long been an advocate for online dating, not because it’s perfect, but because it ALWAYS created a love life for me. As a writer without a close-knit group of friends, who worked from home, and who bristled at the idea of picking up women at bars, this medium was a godsend. I had my first online girlfriend in 2000 for five months, fell in love in 2003 in a seven-month relationship, did it again in 2004 for four months, and had my last online girlfriend in 2006 for eight months. However, if you were watching my profile on JDate, you’d have assumed that I was online from 1998-2006 without any success.
In fact, in my dating heyday, I didn’t just try JDate. I tried Match, Chemistry, eHarmony, Nerve, AmericanSingles, Matchmaker… I’m probably even forgetting one or two places. You date someone for a month, you go back on. Three months, you go back on. Sometimes, when you leave, you don’t take your profile downâ€"which leads you to be labeled an online dating addict by a woman who is on every single site herself.
And so it goes.
But you ARE onto something, Barb, which is that online dating CAN be addicting.
Just like alcohol can be used recreationally or abusively, so can Match.com. What’s similar is that the users always think that they’ve got it under control, and that nobody’s getting hurt in the process.
This is clearly not true.
There’s a delusional aspect to successful online datingâ€"one that I’ve embodiedâ€"one that I’ve seen in my clients as well. You sign up on eHarmony because you’re serious about a relationship. You want marriage, you want kids, you’re ready for love. And then you start the process. Dozens of women parade across your screen, each younger, smarter, more attractive, more tantalizing than the last. Suddenly, you’re corresponding with 12 people online, have five phone numbers, and three dates scheduled in a weekend. This is not the GOAL, but an almost uncontrollable byproduct of the choice and volume inherent in online dating.
And this is what gets lost on all the people who say that every man’s a player who’s just out to get laid. In fact, the vast majority of men (75% in an old Match.com poll) are looking for a long-term relationship. It’s just super difficult to settle on one person when you perceive that you have better options that are just a click away. This is the false temptation of online dating. We THINK we have the choice of everyone, when, in fact, we don’t. Why would I write to the 38 year old when I can write to the 28 year old? Why would you write to the guy who makes $50K when you could write to the guy who makes $150K? Or the 5’6†guy, when there’s bound to be a 5’10†guy somewhere in the system?
In real life, we meet people organically, feel attraction and learn about them later. We don’t know their age or their sign or their likes and dislikes. Online dating reverses that process. We learn about them first, and discover attraction later. This makes connecting easy and instantaneous, but it also allows us to dissect people and compare them to others side by side. And if you have anything going “against youâ€â€"height, weight, income, ageâ€"you’re often going to lose by comparison.
The real upshot, Barb, is that by understanding thisâ€"by being more open and forgiving of men, by keeping a positive attitude, by going on multiple sites, by persevering despite the frustrationâ€"you give yourself a much greater chance of success than if you said, “Online dating is bullshit, men are bullshit, I quit.â€
Quitters never win. Winners never quit.
Don’t worry about the guys who seem like addicts. We’re all addictsâ€"until we find the person who makes us want to kick our addiction.
Want better results in your love life? Click here to read my FREE eBook "7 Secrets for Dating Success" and receive news about all my new articles, products and seminars.
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Dear Evan,
Having the experience you do with online dating, I was wondering what you think about some of the psychology of online dating. Is there a phenomenon of addiction to it? I was wondering because it seems like so many people have profiles online either the same site or multiple sites for lengthy periods of time. I can search Match.com and then come back a year or two later and the same guys are still on the site and usually with the same picture. Also, I dated a guy for a time who almost seems to be addicted. What do you think? Barb
Dear Barb,
There are two things going on in your question, and I want to address them separately:
First, let’s dispel the notion that there’s something wrong with someone who’s a) on Match.com two years after he signed up, and b) signed up for multiple dating sites.
It’s pure hypocrisy. The only way you’d know if the same guy was on Match.com two years later is if YOU were on the site two years later. The only way you’d know that he’s also on eHarmony is if you’re ALSO on eHarmony. Essentially, you’re saying, “I’m not a loser, player, commitmentphobe or dating addict, but any man who does the same thing that I’m doing must be.â€
So to set the record straight: going on multiple dating sites means that you’re looking to expand your options. Maybe your month ran out on JDate and you want to try SawYouAtSinai. Maybe the pickings were slim on Chemistry, so you branched out to PerfectMatch. Maybe you’ve been rejected by everyone on DateMyPet, so you decide to bark up a different tree like AnimalAttraction.
There is another myth in your question, Barbâ€"the idea that someone who signed up on Match in January ‘06 and is still on in January ‘08 has been on for two consecutive years. Let’s say he dated seven people in his first two months and then found a happy relationship that lasted for a year and a half. After a month of mourning and attempted make-up sex, he reposts his profile once again. All YOU can see is that the same face is still on there, two years later, when, in fact, this guy is the perfect example of an online dating success. He loved, he lost, and he came back for more.
Yeah, I’M that guy.
Naturally, I’ve long been an advocate for online dating, not because it’s perfect, but because it ALWAYS created a love life for me. As a writer without a close-knit group of friends, who worked from home, and who bristled at the idea of picking up women at bars, this medium was a godsend. I had my first online girlfriend in 2000 for five months, fell in love in 2003 in a seven-month relationship, did it again in 2004 for four months, and had my last online girlfriend in 2006 for eight months. However, if you were watching my profile on JDate, you’d have assumed that I was online from 1998-2006 without any success.
In fact, in my dating heyday, I didn’t just try JDate. I tried Match, Chemistry, eHarmony, Nerve, AmericanSingles, Matchmaker… I’m probably even forgetting one or two places. You date someone for a month, you go back on. Three months, you go back on. Sometimes, when you leave, you don’t take your profile downâ€"which leads you to be labeled an online dating addict by a woman who is on every single site herself.
And so it goes.
But you ARE onto something, Barb, which is that online dating CAN be addicting.
Just like alcohol can be used recreationally or abusively, so can Match.com. What’s similar is that the users always think that they’ve got it under control, and that nobody’s getting hurt in the process.
This is clearly not true.
There’s a delusional aspect to successful online datingâ€"one that I’ve embodiedâ€"one that I’ve seen in my clients as well. You sign up on eHarmony because you’re serious about a relationship. You want marriage, you want kids, you’re ready for love. And then you start the process. Dozens of women parade across your screen, each younger, smarter, more attractive, more tantalizing than the last. Suddenly, you’re corresponding with 12 people online, have five phone numbers, and three dates scheduled in a weekend. This is not the GOAL, but an almost uncontrollable byproduct of the choice and volume inherent in online dating.
And this is what gets lost on all the people who say that every man’s a player who’s just out to get laid. In fact, the vast majority of men (75% in an old Match.com poll) are looking for a long-term relationship. It’s just super difficult to settle on one person when you perceive that you have better options that are just a click away. This is the false temptation of online dating. We THINK we have the choice of everyone, when, in fact, we don’t. Why would I write to the 38 year old when I can write to the 28 year old? Why would you write to the guy who makes $50K when you could write to the guy who makes $150K? Or the 5’6†guy, when there’s bound to be a 5’10†guy somewhere in the system?
In real life, we meet people organically, feel attraction and learn about them later. We don’t know their age or their sign or their likes and dislikes. Online dating reverses that process. We learn about them first, and discover attraction later. This makes connecting easy and instantaneous, but it also allows us to dissect people and compare them to others side by side. And if you have anything going “against youâ€â€"height, weight, income, ageâ€"you’re often going to lose by comparison.
The real upshot, Barb, is that by understanding thisâ€"by being more open and forgiving of men, by keeping a positive attitude, by going on multiple sites, by persevering despite the frustrationâ€"you give yourself a much greater chance of success than if you said, “Online dating is bullshit, men are bullshit, I quit.â€
Quitters never win. Winners never quit.
Don’t worry about the guys who seem like addicts. We’re all addictsâ€"until we find the person who makes us want to kick our addiction.
Want better results in your love life? Click here to read my FREE eBook "7 Secrets for Dating Success" and receive news about all my new articles, products and seminars.
Dating as a Single Parent by Katherin Scott, The Dating Coach
Dating as a Single Parent by Katherin Scott, The Dating Coach
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As a single parent, the dating game has just gotten more complicated. In addition to the usual difficulty of meeting people, dealing with rejection, and dealing with jerks, you have the kids. You also have the ghost of your past relationship to deal with��"which, thanks to your kids, keeps coming back.
It’s easy to say I’m too busy for all that and just snuggle in with your children for some wholesome family movies. But the desire for romance and companionship is just as real as it was before you had kids, and you are no less deserving. It’s worth getting out there, once you’re ready and try again. All it takes is a little planning and a little care.
Your kids always come first. You know it’s true, and you have to make sure your kids know it, too. You also have to make sure your dates know it. Remember that your kids are dealing with relationship changes too. You don’t want to have them attach to a revolving door of role models.
Don’t introduce your kids and your date until the relationship is serious. Go meet your date instead of being picked up at your home. Let the kids have their space. If your kids are older, you can let them know you’re dating��"a fifteen-year-old is just going to be annoyed if you introduce someone you’ve been out with three times as your “friend.†The key is let the kids know that your dating life doesn’t infringe on or threaten their stability or their relationship with you. You go to work; you talk with friends; you go on dates. Keep it simple and separate.
Portion your time so your kids get enough focused one-on-one time. Don’t let your dating life take much time away from your kids. If at all possible, schedule your dates for weekends when your kids are away. If you’re dating another single parent, find out right away what your custody schedules are. If they conflict, you’ll have a problem. Remember that you’re your kids’ role model. You don’t have to kill your sex life, but you have to be more careful than when you were single. You have to stay healthy, and you have to behave the way you’d want your children to. Don’t subject your kids to a parade of strangers coming out of your room in the mornings. Make sure your dates understand your need for discretion. If you’re dating another single parent, they’ll probably understand, but an adult without children may need to have things explained. Dating as a parent is different from what they’ll be used to. Talk to them about behavior around your kids and about what to expect from your ex. When you’re a single parent, you have to interact more with an ex than non-parents do. Your current relationship will need to understand and accept that.
When it’s time to introduce your kids, talk with your kids first. Explicitly affirm your commitment to them. Make sure they understand who it is they’re meeting. Solicit their thoughts and feelings, but do not ask for their permission or approval. You are dating, but you are still the parent. Your kids need to know they are first, and they also need to know you’re still in charge.
Keeping your kids a secret will waste your time. You can’t end up with someone who has a problem with children. Be careful not to date someone who’ll use your children to get good with you. Date someone who is genuinely comfortable with kids.
As for yourself; you do deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. Don’t let your past experiences trip you up. Also, don’t tell your dates about them. Obviously, if you tell them you’re a parent, it may come up you’re divorced. But you don’t have to subject your date to long stories of your ex’s misdeeds. It’s always in bad taste to complain about past relationships, and that still holds true when your past relationship was ten years long.
Finally - Go for it! If it’s been awhile since you joined the dating game, don’t worry. Some things have changed. The essentials haven’t. Look out for your kids, look out for yourself, and have fun.
*************************************************** Katherin Scott, M.A., is a Dating and Relationship Coach, author and speaker. Coach Katherin has devoted her life to the pursuit of love and romance - not just for herself, but for the millions of single people who want love in their lives. Katherin coaches singles worldwide and teaches seminars and workshops to help people empower themselves to find love and happiness. Visit her website at http://www.KatherinScott.com and sign-up for her newsletter as well as free tips, assessments and articles.
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As a single parent, the dating game has just gotten more complicated. In addition to the usual difficulty of meeting people, dealing with rejection, and dealing with jerks, you have the kids. You also have the ghost of your past relationship to deal with��"which, thanks to your kids, keeps coming back.
It’s easy to say I’m too busy for all that and just snuggle in with your children for some wholesome family movies. But the desire for romance and companionship is just as real as it was before you had kids, and you are no less deserving. It’s worth getting out there, once you’re ready and try again. All it takes is a little planning and a little care.
Your kids always come first. You know it’s true, and you have to make sure your kids know it, too. You also have to make sure your dates know it. Remember that your kids are dealing with relationship changes too. You don’t want to have them attach to a revolving door of role models.
Don’t introduce your kids and your date until the relationship is serious. Go meet your date instead of being picked up at your home. Let the kids have their space. If your kids are older, you can let them know you’re dating��"a fifteen-year-old is just going to be annoyed if you introduce someone you’ve been out with three times as your “friend.†The key is let the kids know that your dating life doesn’t infringe on or threaten their stability or their relationship with you. You go to work; you talk with friends; you go on dates. Keep it simple and separate.
Portion your time so your kids get enough focused one-on-one time. Don’t let your dating life take much time away from your kids. If at all possible, schedule your dates for weekends when your kids are away. If you’re dating another single parent, find out right away what your custody schedules are. If they conflict, you’ll have a problem. Remember that you’re your kids’ role model. You don’t have to kill your sex life, but you have to be more careful than when you were single. You have to stay healthy, and you have to behave the way you’d want your children to. Don’t subject your kids to a parade of strangers coming out of your room in the mornings. Make sure your dates understand your need for discretion. If you’re dating another single parent, they’ll probably understand, but an adult without children may need to have things explained. Dating as a parent is different from what they’ll be used to. Talk to them about behavior around your kids and about what to expect from your ex. When you’re a single parent, you have to interact more with an ex than non-parents do. Your current relationship will need to understand and accept that.
When it’s time to introduce your kids, talk with your kids first. Explicitly affirm your commitment to them. Make sure they understand who it is they’re meeting. Solicit their thoughts and feelings, but do not ask for their permission or approval. You are dating, but you are still the parent. Your kids need to know they are first, and they also need to know you’re still in charge.
Keeping your kids a secret will waste your time. You can’t end up with someone who has a problem with children. Be careful not to date someone who’ll use your children to get good with you. Date someone who is genuinely comfortable with kids.
As for yourself; you do deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. Don’t let your past experiences trip you up. Also, don’t tell your dates about them. Obviously, if you tell them you’re a parent, it may come up you’re divorced. But you don’t have to subject your date to long stories of your ex’s misdeeds. It’s always in bad taste to complain about past relationships, and that still holds true when your past relationship was ten years long.
Finally - Go for it! If it’s been awhile since you joined the dating game, don’t worry. Some things have changed. The essentials haven’t. Look out for your kids, look out for yourself, and have fun.
*************************************************** Katherin Scott, M.A., is a Dating and Relationship Coach, author and speaker. Coach Katherin has devoted her life to the pursuit of love and romance - not just for herself, but for the millions of single people who want love in their lives. Katherin coaches singles worldwide and teaches seminars and workshops to help people empower themselves to find love and happiness. Visit her website at http://www.KatherinScott.com and sign-up for her newsletter as well as free tips, assessments and articles.
Am I dating a "Black Magic Woman"? by Bobby Bonslater
Am I dating a "Black Magic Woman"? by Bobby Bonslater
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I'm talking about a biting, spitting, vulgar, mess of a woman who bends all efforts in destroying that fragile soul of a man? Yes my friends I know this sounds like a movie but believe me when I say she does exist (and no, it is not that time of the month). You're probably asking yourself "how does this all happen?", and "why the heck would I be wasting my time and efforts with this type of person?" Don't get your panties in a bunch, because it can happen to you.
Here are some common signs to look for:
When you first meet her she will approach you, and tell you what you want to here. Almost how guys approach woman except this time the woman has this capability. She will be drop dead gorgeous. By the time she gets through talking to you, you will have already convinced yourself in 1,000,000 ways of why she should be with you.
She takes you to her apartment (AKA "Demon Lair") up in the hills. When you walk in, you feel this strange wave of wicked and malevolent ambiance hit you like a bag of bricks. Instead of running in the opposite direction, you say to yourself like an idiot "wow she is interesting".
She will dazzle you with her taste in music of different cultures, intoxicating incense, and tribal like dances she picked up from Africa (she frequently goes there to pick up her damn voodoo dolls and spell casting herbs, don't laugh).
The relationship from this point is a living hell. Making love to this woman is like making love to Beelzebub the "Prince of Demons". I am not lying when I say her face will undergo a metamorphosis, changing forms as you approach that sinful peak of an orgasm. Try not to look because it will freak you out. Arguments are taken to the extremity of biting and spitting (common signs of a demon). Whatever you do, don't call the police because they will always take the side of a drop dead gorgeous woman and have you hauled off to jail.
Number 1 Sign: She will tell you that she put a spell on you to get you to love her (classic). At this point you need to send for Abu the taxi driver and go home. Don't mistake this statement with the innocent, "cutesy-wootsey", flirtatious, quasi witty humor you exchange with a normal girl friend ("ha, ha I put a spell on you...ha, ha"). You will be able to tell the difference.
At this point you are probably thinking that this cannot be true. Everything I have said in this article is true. Some of these encounters might be somewhat subtle in nature but pay attention. The only thing I can say is to stay away from these women because you will never win. You cannot domesticate or harness the power of a "Black Magic Woman".
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I'm talking about a biting, spitting, vulgar, mess of a woman who bends all efforts in destroying that fragile soul of a man? Yes my friends I know this sounds like a movie but believe me when I say she does exist (and no, it is not that time of the month). You're probably asking yourself "how does this all happen?", and "why the heck would I be wasting my time and efforts with this type of person?" Don't get your panties in a bunch, because it can happen to you.
Here are some common signs to look for:
When you first meet her she will approach you, and tell you what you want to here. Almost how guys approach woman except this time the woman has this capability. She will be drop dead gorgeous. By the time she gets through talking to you, you will have already convinced yourself in 1,000,000 ways of why she should be with you.
She takes you to her apartment (AKA "Demon Lair") up in the hills. When you walk in, you feel this strange wave of wicked and malevolent ambiance hit you like a bag of bricks. Instead of running in the opposite direction, you say to yourself like an idiot "wow she is interesting".
She will dazzle you with her taste in music of different cultures, intoxicating incense, and tribal like dances she picked up from Africa (she frequently goes there to pick up her damn voodoo dolls and spell casting herbs, don't laugh).
The relationship from this point is a living hell. Making love to this woman is like making love to Beelzebub the "Prince of Demons". I am not lying when I say her face will undergo a metamorphosis, changing forms as you approach that sinful peak of an orgasm. Try not to look because it will freak you out. Arguments are taken to the extremity of biting and spitting (common signs of a demon). Whatever you do, don't call the police because they will always take the side of a drop dead gorgeous woman and have you hauled off to jail.
Number 1 Sign: She will tell you that she put a spell on you to get you to love her (classic). At this point you need to send for Abu the taxi driver and go home. Don't mistake this statement with the innocent, "cutesy-wootsey", flirtatious, quasi witty humor you exchange with a normal girl friend ("ha, ha I put a spell on you...ha, ha"). You will be able to tell the difference.
At this point you are probably thinking that this cannot be true. Everything I have said in this article is true. Some of these encounters might be somewhat subtle in nature but pay attention. The only thing I can say is to stay away from these women because you will never win. You cannot domesticate or harness the power of a "Black Magic Woman".
Check out more articles from Bobby Bonslater at LuckyLink.com Information Center.
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Dating Tips: Which Pickup Technique Is The Most Important? by Julian Foxx
Dating Tips: Which Pickup Technique Is The Most Important? by Julian Foxx
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Of all the questions that has been emailed to me, there is one that continues to appear...
"What is the most important skill to develop in pickup?"
I believe the very nature of this question is problematic. It somehow implies that there is a quick solution to our dating problems and that is simply not the case.
If there is one thing I've discovered in my trainings, it is this: Powerful pickup techniques can certainly help a client, but not NEARLY as much as identifying and eliminating previously existing bad habits.
Most of the time the client is not aware of these habits, and it requires some real work on my part just to convince them that they exist in the first place.
This is also what I believe is wrong with most of the pickup training or dating tips for guys out there...It teaches a methodology or system without taking into account the individual hangups that the client most certainly has.
The unique training I've developed with Dr. Robert Epstein (one of the most respected psychologists in the world) not only presents a comprehensive pickup system to master, but the exercises are individually tailored to each client.
Now before I get too sale-sy, you should know that I'm actually making a point here:
The most important pickup skill you can develop is to become more aware of your own bad habits...and come up with effective solutions to help get rid of them.
In other words, you can master every damn dating tips for men and pickup technique that you want... but if every time you open you mouth, flecks of saliva spray her in the face... you've pretty much failed no matter what.
Now, of course there are many other skills and dating advice that one could argue are 'the most important.'
For example, we are very big on relaxation here... It is essential to give every client some techniques on how to minimize stress when faced in a tough situation.
But there is one other skill that I feel deserves mention...In fact, this is the skill that in my not-so-humble opinion separates the men from the boys in the dating game:
The ability to cope with resistance.
Lets face it, most of us have had an easy lay at one point or another. Hopefully you know what I'm talking about...It was just ON...You liked her, she liked you, you were horny, so was she... Escalation to sex was as smooth as butter.
This kind of lay doesn't impress me at all.
Not that I turn it down when it happens, of course;)
What impresses me is how a client performs in the face of real resistance. In other words, she is blocking your attempts to push the relationship forward. Oftentimes this resistance is a result of a mistake you might have made.
And we all make mistakes, so get used to it.
The best seductions I've ever done were always the ones where I made a critical error...and was able to recover.
So the next time you screw up on an approach or a date, remember that it is actually an incredible opportunity to see if you can bounce back...
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Of all the questions that has been emailed to me, there is one that continues to appear...
"What is the most important skill to develop in pickup?"
I believe the very nature of this question is problematic. It somehow implies that there is a quick solution to our dating problems and that is simply not the case.
If there is one thing I've discovered in my trainings, it is this: Powerful pickup techniques can certainly help a client, but not NEARLY as much as identifying and eliminating previously existing bad habits.
Most of the time the client is not aware of these habits, and it requires some real work on my part just to convince them that they exist in the first place.
This is also what I believe is wrong with most of the pickup training or dating tips for guys out there...It teaches a methodology or system without taking into account the individual hangups that the client most certainly has.
The unique training I've developed with Dr. Robert Epstein (one of the most respected psychologists in the world) not only presents a comprehensive pickup system to master, but the exercises are individually tailored to each client.
Now before I get too sale-sy, you should know that I'm actually making a point here:
The most important pickup skill you can develop is to become more aware of your own bad habits...and come up with effective solutions to help get rid of them.
In other words, you can master every damn dating tips for men and pickup technique that you want... but if every time you open you mouth, flecks of saliva spray her in the face... you've pretty much failed no matter what.
Now, of course there are many other skills and dating advice that one could argue are 'the most important.'
For example, we are very big on relaxation here... It is essential to give every client some techniques on how to minimize stress when faced in a tough situation.
But there is one other skill that I feel deserves mention...In fact, this is the skill that in my not-so-humble opinion separates the men from the boys in the dating game:
The ability to cope with resistance.
Lets face it, most of us have had an easy lay at one point or another. Hopefully you know what I'm talking about...It was just ON...You liked her, she liked you, you were horny, so was she... Escalation to sex was as smooth as butter.
This kind of lay doesn't impress me at all.
Not that I turn it down when it happens, of course;)
What impresses me is how a client performs in the face of real resistance. In other words, she is blocking your attempts to push the relationship forward. Oftentimes this resistance is a result of a mistake you might have made.
And we all make mistakes, so get used to it.
The best seductions I've ever done were always the ones where I made a critical error...and was able to recover.
So the next time you screw up on an approach or a date, remember that it is actually an incredible opportunity to see if you can bounce back...
Dating Rules
Dating Rules
The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older. You see, when we are young our fellow friends at school and college reinforce the way things should be done when dealing with potential dates. Yes you should wear that, no you never say that, yes you should do this, but no you never do that. Then we grow up. For a time we are completely aware of the rules of dating and we practice those rules every time we meet someone. But then we meet someone perhaps, fall in love and have a relationship. Little by little the things we learned over our formative years when dealing with the fairer sex are lost and are in fact unlearned.
Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride. Of course there will be some of you reading this that are the very epitome of dating sophistication, but the truth is, when you lose your heart you also lose your head. If you are going to date well then give these key do's and don'ts of dating some serious consideration. Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.
Dating Rules - Do's
1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates
2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.
3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.
4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift.
5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.
6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.
7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.
8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.
9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.
10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.
Dating Rules - Don'ts
1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.
2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.
3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.
4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.
5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.
6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.
7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.
8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.
10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.
11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.
12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.
The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older. You see, when we are young our fellow friends at school and college reinforce the way things should be done when dealing with potential dates. Yes you should wear that, no you never say that, yes you should do this, but no you never do that. Then we grow up. For a time we are completely aware of the rules of dating and we practice those rules every time we meet someone. But then we meet someone perhaps, fall in love and have a relationship. Little by little the things we learned over our formative years when dealing with the fairer sex are lost and are in fact unlearned.
Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride. Of course there will be some of you reading this that are the very epitome of dating sophistication, but the truth is, when you lose your heart you also lose your head. If you are going to date well then give these key do's and don'ts of dating some serious consideration. Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.
Dating Rules - Do's
1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates
2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.
3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.
4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift.
5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.
6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.
7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.
8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.
9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.
10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.
Dating Rules - Don'ts
1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.
2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.
3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.
4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.
5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.
6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.
7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.
8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.
10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.
11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.
12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.
LOVE :Heaven's Gift: CH. 4
Heaven's Gift: CH. 4
In love with an angel, and trying to get through with life...
We gave out all the passes and I was relieved. I looked over my shoulder and saw Phil looking at something on the wall, so I stopped.
"Sorry, looking at flyers on the wall." he whispered.
"That's fine." I replied. "Was you ever human before?"
He took his eyes of the wall, and stared at me. His eyes became sad and depressed. "Yeah, about twenty years ago. I was a senior, out partying with my girlfriend. About ten at night, I was walking my girlfriend home from a basketball match and drunk driver came flying around the bend. They was going to hit her, but I pushed her out of the way and they hit me. I died on contact." Phil groaned.
I was speechless. I took his hand and held it tight. "I shouldn't have asked that question." I whispered.
"No, you had a right to." he said. Then he walked down the hall with me by his side. "Oh, our schedules is exactly the same."
"Cool." I smirked. "Where you staying at?" I asked.
"Dunno." he sighed.
"Well, I have a camper. My family doesn't use it during off season. You can use it for your home; for now." I said.
"Thanks, but I don't want to get you into trouble." he strongly said.
"I don't care. Seems like I'm a slave at home, can't get any worse." I smirked. "I'll have someone to talk to when I'm home."
"Fine, I'll stay there." Phil said.
Suddenly the bell rand and we walked over to our lockers. My friend, Amanda, came over to say hi.
"Amanda, the new kid is really hot!" she quickly said.
"Yeah, I been talking to him all last period. We have identical schedules." I hid a smile.
"You like him?" she asked.
"Yes, I do." I replied.
"That's good. I need to hurry to my next period class. I'll see you in gym." Amanda quickly ran off.
In love with an angel, and trying to get through with life...
We gave out all the passes and I was relieved. I looked over my shoulder and saw Phil looking at something on the wall, so I stopped.
"Sorry, looking at flyers on the wall." he whispered.
"That's fine." I replied. "Was you ever human before?"
He took his eyes of the wall, and stared at me. His eyes became sad and depressed. "Yeah, about twenty years ago. I was a senior, out partying with my girlfriend. About ten at night, I was walking my girlfriend home from a basketball match and drunk driver came flying around the bend. They was going to hit her, but I pushed her out of the way and they hit me. I died on contact." Phil groaned.
I was speechless. I took his hand and held it tight. "I shouldn't have asked that question." I whispered.
"No, you had a right to." he said. Then he walked down the hall with me by his side. "Oh, our schedules is exactly the same."
"Cool." I smirked. "Where you staying at?" I asked.
"Dunno." he sighed.
"Well, I have a camper. My family doesn't use it during off season. You can use it for your home; for now." I said.
"Thanks, but I don't want to get you into trouble." he strongly said.
"I don't care. Seems like I'm a slave at home, can't get any worse." I smirked. "I'll have someone to talk to when I'm home."
"Fine, I'll stay there." Phil said.
Suddenly the bell rand and we walked over to our lockers. My friend, Amanda, came over to say hi.
"Amanda, the new kid is really hot!" she quickly said.
"Yeah, I been talking to him all last period. We have identical schedules." I hid a smile.
"You like him?" she asked.
"Yes, I do." I replied.
"That's good. I need to hurry to my next period class. I'll see you in gym." Amanda quickly ran off.
Advice on Dating: Your Date Is Not Your Ex
The way they laughed, danced and loved made you feel like everyday was Christmas. There's just one problem. You are not dating them anymore. Your date was quiet all the way home but you could feel the anger. This is the fourth time they have gone out with you. They have indicated very clearly that they like you and want to know you better. They do not know if the two of you have a future together but they have made every concerted effort to try and find out.
That is until tonight. They have come to the conclusion that they just cannot take it anymore. Every date so far no matter how it starts always ends the same way. The conversation with out fail comes back to your ex.
When you date says something it reminds you of that time your ex said the exact same thing. When you date laughs it is so reminiscent of how your significant other guffaws. The way they wear their hat or sip their tea brings back all of those memories of your ex and unfortunately you share that information with your current date.
No wonder they are not speaking to you. That changes when you drop them off in front of their house. They tell you in no uncertain terms that they do not appreciate you singing the blues about your past relationship. If you want to carry a torch find but do not expect them to help you keep the flame burning. They did not sign on for that and in reality neither did you. Whether you admit it or not the bottom line is you went out with this person to get a fresh start.
Therefore it is important to give yourself, your date and and your ex a break for a few reasons:
1. It's Over
Why are you dating this new person? Because your relationship with your ex is over. Either go forward with your dating life or make the effort to get your ex back. But understand you cannot have both. Accept the fact that it is over and reintroduce yourself to the dating community.
2. It's Boring
Besides resenting the fact that your ex is taking up their time, your dating partner is going to grow tired of this quicker than you realize. The truth is they have gone out with you multiple times which shows you how they feel about you but their patience is not unlimited and neither is their attention span. Going on and on about your ex is either an invitation to end the date prematurely or watch them doze off.
3. Self Sabotage
If you feel you are not ready to date than do not date. There is nothing wrong with taking time off to get yourself together before deciding to reconnect with the dating scene. Going out there knowing that your main focus is still on your ex is asking for trouble in the short and long term.
4. Shoe Meet Other Foot
Think about it. You start talking about you ex and then your date start talking about their ex. Next thing you know four people are double dating but only two are sitting at the table. That makes things a little crowded including not having time to reconnect with each other because you are spending so much time trying to relive memories. Needless to say if your date was the only one talking about their ex, it would not take you long to get very tired of it and them
You had great times with your ex but for whatever reason the two of you are not together anymore. Be thankful for the good times you shared but do not romanticize the entire relationship. The fact is that meeting and dating someone new means the relationship has the potential to equal or surpass what you previously enjoyed. You owe it to yourself to make the most of it.
Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip- It's one of the best ways to get over your ex
That is until tonight. They have come to the conclusion that they just cannot take it anymore. Every date so far no matter how it starts always ends the same way. The conversation with out fail comes back to your ex.
When you date says something it reminds you of that time your ex said the exact same thing. When you date laughs it is so reminiscent of how your significant other guffaws. The way they wear their hat or sip their tea brings back all of those memories of your ex and unfortunately you share that information with your current date.
No wonder they are not speaking to you. That changes when you drop them off in front of their house. They tell you in no uncertain terms that they do not appreciate you singing the blues about your past relationship. If you want to carry a torch find but do not expect them to help you keep the flame burning. They did not sign on for that and in reality neither did you. Whether you admit it or not the bottom line is you went out with this person to get a fresh start.
Therefore it is important to give yourself, your date and and your ex a break for a few reasons:
1. It's Over
Why are you dating this new person? Because your relationship with your ex is over. Either go forward with your dating life or make the effort to get your ex back. But understand you cannot have both. Accept the fact that it is over and reintroduce yourself to the dating community.
2. It's Boring
Besides resenting the fact that your ex is taking up their time, your dating partner is going to grow tired of this quicker than you realize. The truth is they have gone out with you multiple times which shows you how they feel about you but their patience is not unlimited and neither is their attention span. Going on and on about your ex is either an invitation to end the date prematurely or watch them doze off.
3. Self Sabotage
If you feel you are not ready to date than do not date. There is nothing wrong with taking time off to get yourself together before deciding to reconnect with the dating scene. Going out there knowing that your main focus is still on your ex is asking for trouble in the short and long term.
4. Shoe Meet Other Foot
Think about it. You start talking about you ex and then your date start talking about their ex. Next thing you know four people are double dating but only two are sitting at the table. That makes things a little crowded including not having time to reconnect with each other because you are spending so much time trying to relive memories. Needless to say if your date was the only one talking about their ex, it would not take you long to get very tired of it and them
You had great times with your ex but for whatever reason the two of you are not together anymore. Be thankful for the good times you shared but do not romanticize the entire relationship. The fact is that meeting and dating someone new means the relationship has the potential to equal or surpass what you previously enjoyed. You owe it to yourself to make the most of it.
Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip- It's one of the best ways to get over your ex
By Daryl Campbell
Published: 9/22/2008
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